The Urgency Trap: How Desperation Blocks the Abundance You Seek

Have you ever felt an overwhelming sense of urgency about something you wanted? Maybe it was a business deal, a relationship, a financial breakthrough, or even recognition for your work. That gripping feeling of I need this now—as if your happiness, success, or self-worth depended on it.

This urgency doesn’t come from desire—it comes from lack. And when we operate from lack, we attract more lack.

I call this The Urgency Trap.

The Urgency Trap is the sense that we need something desperately, as if it will complete us, fix us, or validate us. It stems from the belief that we don’t already have enough or are enough. The problem? Feminine energy doesn’t work this way. Feminine energy thrives in abundance, ease, and flow. Urgency, on the other hand, signals scarcity—and scarcity energy repels the very things we desire.

The Hidden Cost of Urgency

When we operate from urgency, we send a signal to the universe (and to ourselves) that something is missing. This creates:

1. Tension and Resistance – The more we chase, the more things seem to slip away.
2. Emotional Burnout – Living in desperation drains our joy and energy.
3. Attracting the Wrong Situations – When we believe we are lacking, we unconsciously attract people and circumstances that reinforce that belief.

Urgency often comes with self-judgment. Why don’t I have this already? What’s wrong with me? But when we reject parts of ourselves, we attract situations and people that mirror that rejection.

The solution? Shifting from scarcity to abundance—not by forcing positive thinking, but by stepping into the knowing that you already have everything you need.

3 Steps to Escape the Urgency Trap

1. Reclaim Your Enoughness

Instead of chasing what you think will complete you, start affirming your own wholeness. Practice saying:

• I am already enough.
• Everything I desire is already on its way to me.
• I don’t chase, I attract. I allow.

Shift from “I need this to happen” to “I am open to receiving what is already meant for me.”

2. Relax into Trust

Feminine energy is about allowing, not forcing. The more you relax into trust, the more you open the space for what you desire to come in.

Ways to do this:

• Breathe. Every time urgency creeps in, take a deep breath and say: I trust my timing.
• Focus on what’s already working instead of obsessing over what’s missing.
• Move into pleasure—whether it’s a walk, music, or a conversation that lights you up.

Abundance flows where there is ease, not where there is force.

3. Become a Match for What You Want

If you desire love, embody love. If you want high-end clients, embody the energy of someone who already serves high-end clients. If you want financial ease, stop acting like money is scarce.

The question isn’t, When will I get what I want? The question is, Who do I need to become to receive it effortlessly?

By shifting from urgency to certainty—from desperation to trust—you step into the version of yourself that already has it all. And when you truly know you already are and have enough, the world reflects that back to you.

Let go of the chase. Drop the urgency. Watch what happens next.